The Quiet Power of the Subconscious Volume 4
Lian Thore
The Quiet Power of the Subconscious – Volume 4
Conscious Parenting
Understanding Yourself, Seeing Your Child More Deeply and Lovingly Changing Old Patterns
Sometimes parenting does not begin with what your child does – but with what your child touches inside you.
- A defiant no.
- A tantrum at the worst possible moment.
- Crying that does not seem to stop.
- A sibling conflict that instantly creates pressure within you.
And suddenly something inside you becomes loud: impatience, helplessness, guilt, anger, control – or the painful feeling that you are not enough as a parent.
This book gently and practically shows you how unconscious patterns become visible in everyday family life – and how you can begin to respond more consciously instead of passing old imprints on automatically.
You will learn how to …
- understand your own reactions as a mother or father more clearly
- recognize why children can touch old inner patterns
- see your child’s behaviour more deeply instead of judging it too quickly
- regulate yourself first in difficult moments
- set clear boundaries without becoming harsh or disconnected
- deal more consciously with anger, guilt and shame
- rebuild connection and safety after conflict
- lovingly interrupt old patterns instead of repeating them unconsciously
ISBN-13: E 979-8188338992
Format: Paperback and eBook (English)
Edition: 2026
The Parenting Compass
Notice → Regulate → Understand → Hold Boundaries → Repair → Connect → Integrate
Many difficult family moments do not happen because parents love too little.
They happen because stress, overwhelm and old experiences react faster than the conscious mind.
The Parenting Compass helps you return to exactly that point: the moment when you notice what is happening inside you before you act.
- Not perfectly.
- Not theoretically.
- But in a practical, human and step-by-step way.
Mini Practice: The Three-Breath Moment
When you notice that a situation with your child is beginning to shift:
- Stop – inwardly say: “First, come back to myself.”
- Exhale – slowly and consciously, a little longer than you inhale.
- Feel your body – notice your feet, hands, shoulders or chest.
- Name it – ask yourself: “What is happening inside me right now?”
- See your child – “What might my child need in this moment?”
- Choose your direction – “Do I want to control – or guide and connect?”
The goal is not to always stay calm.
The goal is to notice earlier what is happening – and then choose more consciously.
This book is for you if you …
- love your child and still sometimes feel overwhelmed
- sometimes react more strongly than you would like to
- do not want to unconsciously pass on old parenting patterns
- want to better understand anger, guilt or shame in parenting
- want to see your child more deeply, not just manage behaviour
- want to set boundaries without losing connection
- want to restore closeness and safety after difficult moments
- are looking for a parenting guide that includes not only behaviour, but also the subconscious mind
This topic is also personally connected to Lian Thore’s own lived experience. Volume 4 is dedicated to Linett and Jasmin – and to Katrin, with whom love became family. This personal connection shapes the perspective of this book on parenting: not as a test in which everything must be done perfectly, but as a path of love, learning, mistakes, repair and the willingness to return to connection again and again.
Note:
The contents of this book are intended for general information, self-reflection and personal orientation. They do not replace medical, psychotherapeutic, psychological, educational or other professional diagnosis, advice or treatment.